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From Dear Abby:
An unhealthy rapport
Q: I am in my 50’s and in a relationship with “Josh”, 42. We have been seeing each other for three years, but we’re insecure. Josh looks through my cell phone every chance he gets. This bothers me because I have male friends, but he erased their phone numbers and forbade them to call me. Occasionally, I ask to see his cell phone. Sometimes he’ll agree, other times he refuses.
A text message I sent to a friend caused Josh to question my loyalty. In retaliation I went through some things at the house and questioned his. I have begged him to stop going through my phone, but it falls on deaf ears. What should I do?
Treading lightly in Detroit
A: See if Josh cares enough about you to go with you for relationship counseling. You and he appear to feed off each other’s insecurity, and that’s not healthy. Rummaging through personal papers and cell phone histories accomplishes nothing and only heightens both your anxieties. |
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